All is far in love and war.What can that saying really be saying?Are they presuming that the two are very similar?I can’t be too positive that it was the intended meaning, but there are a lot of things that are similar between the two.

The things that are the same I guess are when the two turns from love into war.  It may still be love between the two but they are at each other like it is war.  I have seen this first hand doing couples counseling San Diego.A couple that once used to be loving now are constantly in battle.It is my main purpose is to be able to bring peace between the couple.And to bring back that once great love between the two.

So what are the signs of trouble?One of the huge signs to look out for is a lack of communication.Or should it be said lack of any communication.For practically all relationships, knowing how to communicate is essential.Since it is so important, if in your relationship you start to see that you are not being able to communicate it is a sign.It is a sign or warning of trouble.  Whether I am doing couples counseling or as a marriage counselor in San Diego I see it all the time.  After all if you can’t communicate, every little thing can become a big problem.  Proper communication helps avoid that.

So as a family therapist San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.One of the biggest secrets to effective communicating is being able to listen.  People think of communication as talking to each other.  But really if you don’t listen well, you don’t really understand each other.So by assisting the couple to learn how to listen better, it will greatly improve their communications.

By being able to spot this sign, a couple will be able to better know that trouble may be starting.Now if the couple can spot this problem early in their relationship, they might be able to avoid some serious problems. From what I have witnessed, the optimum way to solve some problems is to completely avoid them.  But if not recognized early, best way to solve them is to learn how to communicate.Sounds basic but what it can do is have a major role in the problem.